Softness Is Not Weakness: What I Know Now

There was a time I thought I had to be tough all the time.
Keep it together. Hold it in. Push through.
Toughness looked like saying "I’m fine" when I wasn’t.
Like never crying in public. Like laughing off the hard things because… what else could you do?

I thought softness meant weakness.
And weakness wasn’t allowed.

What Changed?

Honestly? Life.

Midlife came in like a quiet wave. Not crashing, just slowly rising, shifting the shoreline of who I thought I was.

And somewhere between raising babies, holding heartbreaks, losing people I loved, and learning how to breathe again…
I started to let go of the armor.

I Don’t Want to Be Hard Anymore

I don’t want to be the strongest woman in the room.
I want to be the most whole.

That means feeling things deeply.
It means crying in the car after a hard conversation.
It means letting go of perfection.
It means resting when I’m tired, not waiting until I’ve earned it.

Softness Is a Strength We’re Not Taught to Value

• It takes courage to feel.

• It takes maturity to say “I don’t know.”

• It takes wisdom to walk away from the noise.

• It takes self-respect to say “This doesn’t work for me anymore.”

We’ve been told we’re too sensitive, too emotional, too much.
But what if those are the parts of us that were always most human?

If You’re Feeling Softer These Days…

That doesn’t mean you’re losing your edge.
It means you’re reclaiming your peace.

You’re allowed to be strong and soft.
To be still and powerful.
To cry and know exactly who you are.

That’s not weakness.
That’s a woman who knows her worth.

🖤
Brandy